We all have something holding us back from the progress that we would have wanted to make in life at one point or the other. What is yours? Some past experiences can intrude in our life for the longest time. It is how we treat them that may withhold our progress throughout life. No matter how much you may think that part of your past deserves your anger, vitriol and resentment. You may have to wonder what purpose it currently serves. It may be really hurtful, but no matter how much you bring it into the present, it will never change. It is pathetic, pointless and to the rest of bystanders quite disturbing.

How about looking for ways of dealing with yourself, so that it remains a memory and not a hinderance to your present progress? Harboring pain and resentment will only hurt you more and hold you back from walking over it and progressing in your wellbeing.

I believe that sharing our stories of things we have been through, can give strength to those who may be going through similar struggles and may need encouragement that they are not alone. It also gives us the perspective that it is all in our past no matter the pain. Usually, our current attitude to our past experiences is the biggest problem. What stands between you and your power to cross over is your mindset. The way you perceive yourself now in relation to your past problematic experiences. You alone stand on the way to your growth. We all belong to the world’s largest club of problematic past experiences. The questions you need to ask yourself is what you desire and how you can get it.

Many of us have been hurt physically, emotionally and psychologically from our past. Living there or frequently re-visiting can be stagnating. Even though you may have a very good reason to be eternally resentful, you have to look for ways of letting go. Looking for a way to let go and move on is the best you can do to yourself. It is not about what happened in the past, it is what you deserve at the moment. Dwelling in the past hurt can waste you and your whole life. It will destroy you from the inside out. Always remember the phrase that states; The only thing you can change about the past is how it affects you. You can surely choose to do, be and create a different space in your world. The vitriol, anger, resentment and hatred that you are hanging onto as a shield to protect you, is only eating you up. It is a way of destroying yourself. It is a game you must stop. Forgive yourself and others. Talk to someone who can help you navigate through that valley, seek for professional help. Go for talk therapy.

Negative feelings about our past experiences can be captivating. They will never give you rest until you deliberate to address them. Processing the captivating thoughts that feed the way you always feel about a situation can help you develop new perspectives that can transform your life through problematic past experiences. When your past experiences get in the way to your daily life functioning for more than three months, then it is a wake up call for you to seek for help. This will help you avoid complications and save you on costs that may escalate with bigger issues later on. What we have to learn is how to get out of the comfort of wallowing in the misery of blaming our past in our present as we miss out on planning for our future because something happened to us or someone did or did not do one thing or another to us. You have the choice to decide you are not going to let your past dictate your present and ruin your future.